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LOVE THAT BOY

Ron Fournier

What Two Presidents, Eight Road Trips, and My Son Taught Me About a Parent's Expectations

In LOVE THAT BOY, Ron Fournier, bestselling author, editor, and journalist, writes movingly of the outsize and crushing expectations that come from parents and with parenting today, through the lens of his relationship with his son.
When a parent's expectations come from the wrong place and are pressed into service of the wrong goals, kids get hurt. While a parent's love is unconditional, a parent's pride comes with caveats. Ron Fournier came to learn both of these facts late in his job as a father. “This is an important distinction,” he writes. “You love your kids no matter what, but you expect them to be something – smart or popular or successful; maybe a scholarship athlete who marries well and runs the family business…. Parenthood is the last chance to be the person we hoped to be. We want to get it right. We want it to be perfect, and that’s the problem.”

Fournier's son Tyler has mild Asperger's syndrome, a form of autism that makes him socially awkward, and Fournier struggled to connect with him. So with a stiff nudge from his wife, Ron traveled the country with Tyler to various presidential sites and visited with former presidents Bill Clinton and George W. Bush, in a series of "guilt" trips that help him appreciate Tyler for who he is, rather than what he wanted him to be.

In December 2012, Ron wrote a National Journal cover story about the challenges in his relationship with Tyler. It touched a nerve with parents everywhere, winning plaudits from Arianna Huffington, Joe Scarborough, Howard Kurtz, and many others. It was tweeted about by Jim Gaffigan this past fall. Jim has promised to support the book at publication, as have a slew of political journalists and commentators.

LOVE THAT BOY is a multi-layered story about one father's journey to acceptance. It is a compelling and honest look at the universal pitfalls of modern parenting. And on a broader level, it's a story about every parent's stratospheric expectations for their children--where and why the dreams are made, how these aspirations distort childhood, and what ways they can be properly channeled.

Ron Fournier is the senior political columnist and editorial director of National Journal. He previously worked at the Associated Press for 20 years, most recently as Washington Bureau chief, where he covered the state legislature and presidential politics. Fournier also served as a fellow at the Harvard Institute of Politics, where he cowrote the New York Times bestseller Applebee's America. He holds the Society of Professional Journalists' Sigma Delta Chi Award for coverage of the 2000 elections, and he is a four-time winner of the prestigious White House Correspondents' Association Merriman Smith Memorial Award. Fournier appears several times per month on such programs as MSNBC's Morning Joe, FOX News' Special Report and On the Record, and CNN's Inside Politics and The Lead. He has appeared as a panelist on Meet the Press and This Week, several NPR shows, and SiriusXM Radio.
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Published 2016-04-12 by Harmony/Crown

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Published 2016-04-12 by Harmony/Crown

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This illuminating and touching book gives us the great gift of letting us know and appreciate the Asperger's world of young Tyler Fournier, who steals scenes from presidents while teaching his parents and all of us what is important in life.

Ron Fournier has done a masterful job capturing the troubles and triumphs of parenting. That we – as parents and caring adults – too often superimpose our own needs and aspirations on the children we love is an important theme in this must read new book. It is a moving tale of fatherhood and of coming to terms with a more enlightened definition of perfect.

In this aching, honest, and moving account of coming to terms with his son’s Asperger diagnosis, Ron Fournier speaks to every parent who has struggled with, not only accepting but embracing, his or her child’s differences. Quite frankly, that is every one of us. To varying degrees we all have two children, the one we hoped for and the one we have. It is the latter that is the blessing. Love that Boy reminds us not to be preoccupied with weaknesses, but to look for strengths. Ultimately Fournier sees clearly, without projection or intruding narcissism, the gift that he has been given in his quirky, whip smart, and unforgettable son Ty. A brave and beautiful recounting.

American Presidents have the honor of meeting Tyler Fournier in this lovely, intimate and inspiring book by his father, which has so much to teach all parents, sons and daughters.

Love That Boy captures both the fears and gifts of fatherhood and writes about it with honest, selfless clarity. This book is a joy to read, and should be required for all new dads…Really.

Ron Fournier and his son Tyler are partners on an eye-opening road trip to the crossroads of love and humanity. Along the way, they meet Bill Clinton and George Bush; but the real reward for readers from his being on the road with his dad is that we meet Tyler, a young man with Asperger’s and a heart as big as the country.

There's no magic wand that can make the challenges of parenting disappear, but having the courage to talk honestly about them may be the next best thing. This is a candid look at raising an atypical child. Ron Fournier leads by example, digging through expectations and ego to lay bare what it means to love a child unconditionally.

Love That Boy is a gift to families of all kinds. Tyler is a reminder of why being a parent, whatever the child's condition, is at once the most important and challenging job in mankind.

Ron Fournier’s deeply personal account of the frustrations and celebrations that go along with raising a special child is deeply moving. As the proud father of an Asperger’s child, Ron's heartfelt work inspired me as much as I know it will inspire you.