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NEVER DATE A BROKE DUDE

Pattie Ehsaei

& Other Essential Rules for Navigating Romance, Finance and Life

From the creator behind "The Duchess of Decorum" TikTok (nearly 1m followers and over 7.1m likes), comes an essential guide to managing finances, dating advice, careers, and everything in between.
No two forces impact happiness and agency in life more than romantic relationships and finances. Even now, the modern woman is still at risk of losing control of her finances, and therefore her future, in one of three ways: 1) she never learns how to properly budget or invest because she believes that she somehow just won't be good at it; 2) she lets her boyfriend or husband manage their joint finances because "men know more about these things"; or 3) she achieves financial freedom or success only to throw it all away "for love" by supporting some broke dudemeaning a guy who's not only lacking the income but the effort to be her equal. Pattie learned at a young age that whoever controls your money, controls you. A lawyer by trade, and former SVP of Mergers and Acquisitions at a major national bank, she has built her platform giving frank, hands-on advice to her followers via her TikTok, podcast and keynotes. The lessons you'll find in this book are born out of some of the most common questions Pattie has answered for her audience, such as: ? Hope is Not a Strategy ? A Proposal is Not a Life Goal ? You Can't Afford That Purse ? You Need Creditand You Need to Put Down the Credit Card ? You're a Better Investor That He Is ? Don't Call It "Helping" With the Housework ? Never Merge Accounts ? Never Change Your Last Name ? "Bossy" Is a Compliment ? Apply for the Damn Job ? And, of course: Never Date a Broke Dude Known as "The Duchess of Decorum" by her 985K+ TikTok followers, Pattie Ehsaei has established herself as one of the platform's leading financial experts. A lawyer by trade and currently a Senior Vice President of Mergers and Acquisitions Lending for a major national bank, Pattie created her TikTok account as a way to provide education, advice, and techniques to help young folks, especially women, navigate work, finances, social settings, and more.
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Published 2025-05-01 by Hachette/Grand Central