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NORMAL FAMILY

Chrysta Bilton

On Love, Truth & How I Met My 35 Siblings

The unforgettable story of a family unlike any you have ever met and one you will not forget
For most of her life, Chrysta Bilton was part of a small, if dysfunctional, family of three. Her larger-than-life, gay mom, Debra, yearned for motherhood. But in the early 1980s, single lesbians had few options. Until one day, while getting her hair done in a Beverly Hills salon, Debra met the man who would be Chrysta's dad. Beautiful, athletic and from a "good" family, Debra was confident that Jeffrey Harrison was the ideal sperm donor.

What Debra could not have known at the time was that there was more to Jeffrey than he let on -- that he was struggling with homelessness and untreated mental illness; not to mention working as a Chippendales dancer and posing nude for the cover of Playgirl. Jeffrey would make only occasional appearances at the family home, which grew to include a baby sister for Chrysta. While Debra did not lean on Jeffrey to help raise her daughters, she did come to depend on dozens of women, drugs, and seemingly every pyramid scheme to come out of Los Angeles in the 80s and 90s to keep her family afloat.

It wasn't until years later that Chrysta and her sister discovered just how many secrets both of her parents had carefully kept from them, and each other. The biggest of all: that for almost a decade, Jeffrey had made his primary living by donating sperm to the largest sperm bank in the world. Eventually, Chrysta would meet nearly 40 siblings - with a new brother or sister appearing every few months - each with their own questions about themselves, their past, and the father they all shared.

Normal Family is the story of embracing the family we have, in all the forms we find it.

Chrysta Bilton found out in her mid-20s that her family was much more complicated and much larger than she ever could have imagined - she was the first of dozens, possibly hundreds, of siblings due to her father's secret life as a sperm donor. Chrysta graduated from Barnard College in New York and she studied classical drawing and painting at the Florence Academy of Fine Art. She currently lives in Los Angeles with her husband, the writer Nick Bilton, their two children, Emerson and Somerset, their dogs, Pixel and Pine Cone, and their cat, Piano. She runs her own public relations firm. NORMAL FAMILY is Chrysta's first book.
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Published 2022-07-12 by Little Brown

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By turns hilarious, wrenching, and achingly tender, this is a memoir about family that turns the whole idea of family upside down. Bilton writes beautifully, with sharp insight and a light touch, about her harrowing, astonishing journey into understanding her parents, her (very) extended family, and herself.

[NORMAL FAMILY] shines a much-needed light on the impact of the secretive, unregulated world of sperm donations.Bilton's deeply human narratives so aptly convey[s].no one should ever be in the dark about his or her own origins.

Before Chrysta even knew her father was a prolific sperm donor, she knew he was mentally ill and living out of a car parked on the beach and her mother was a lesbian struggling with addiction whose boom-and-bust approach to romance and work created a home life of spectacular chaos. Like RUNNING WITH SCISSORS, Chrysta tells the story of her complicated childhood with unusual perceptiveness and humor, making her very unique family into one with which readers can identify...As Chrysta said so well in the proposal, 'First, it's a story asking the question of what is family. Subsequently, it's a story about family disease, addiction, and the carried trauma and shame we inherit from our parents. It's also a story about forgiveness, making peace with where we come from - both the nature and nurture of it all - and ultimately, about unconditional love.'

This remarkable and wise book is actually two memoirs, braided together with such tendresse that readers will come to believe the ironic title in earnest. Born via turkey baster to a lesbian mother with countless connections and even more schemes, Chrysta and her younger sister didn't learn until decades later that their family secrets included one that would change everything, including their definition of 'family.'"

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NORMAL FAMILY had me absolutely riveted from beginning to end. Chrysta Bilton has woven an impeccable narrative about the explosion of love, betrayal, and addictionnot to mention the menagerie of animalsthat made up her madcap and calamitous childhood. The story is dominated by Bilton's hedonistic, cult-inclined, womanizing, unstable and uncanny lesbian single mother, who had to make it up as she went along, and is surely one of the most mesmerizing 'characters' in recent memoir. NORMAL FAMILY narrowly escapes being a tragedy, redeemed by Bilton's compassionate storytelling and unwavering love for her untraditional family.

Chrysta Bilton's astonishing, wildly unpredictable memoir Normal Family starts out as rollicking and suspenseful and only ramps up from there, becoming by turns frightening, riotously funny, and finally quite moving.

A wholly absorbing page-turner that everyone will want to read. You should probably buy two.

I thought my family was complicated until I read Chrysta Bilton's wonderful memoir about the unique - eccentric, wild, expansive - collection of irresistible characters in her life. Bilton has a big heart, gentle wisdom, keen eye and lovely wit. She's a gifted writer with an astonishing story to tell.

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It's hard to put into words the many ways this book spoke to me. Normal Family reads like a thriller with its core mystery being the very meaning of life itself: vividly specific but also universal, with family as protagonist and antagonist, but always the hero.

In her fascinating memoir, the author writes of her unconventional upbringing and discovering her father had sired dozens of children.