Vendor
	Mohrbooks Literary Agency Sebastian Ritscher
Original language
English
Categories
Sex & sexuality, social aspects
Weblink
www.nancydreyfus.com

TALK TO ME LIKE I'M SOMEONE YOU LOVE

Nancy Dreyfus

Relationship Repair in a Flash

When it comes to chronic relationship conflict, talking can be overrated. Sometimes what a couple really needs is to just stop, breathe, and say the right thing (for once!). This book shows couples how.

TALK TO ME LIKE I'M SOMEONE YOU LOVE is a brilliant interactive relationship tool that can help couples stop arguing and begin healing. Couples therapist Nancy Dreyfus hit upon this revolutionary practice during a particularly angry couples therapy session in which a wife's unrelenting criticism of her husband was making him more and more emotionally withdrawn. Suddenly, Dreyfus found herself scribbling on a scrap of paper, "Talk to me like I'm someone you love," and gesturing to the husband that he should hold it up. He did, and within seconds, the familiar power differential between the two shifted, and a gentler, more genuine connection emerged before all their eyes.

TALK TO ME LIKE I'M SOMEONE YOU LOVE features more than 100 of Dreyfus' "flashcards for real life"written statements that hold the power to express what we wish we could say to the person we love but for which we can't find either the right words or the right tone in which to say it. Each statement is accompanied by "field notes" from the author that explain when, why, and how to use the statement as well as real-life stories from her practice of couples who found it helped restore healthy communication.

NEW TO THIS REVISED EDITION: A new preface as well as two sections, one on Sex/Pillow Talk and one on Relationship Limbo (i.e., "I need to figure out where we're at"). Combined, these new sections include approximately fifteen new "Flashcards for Real Life." Nancy Dreyfus, Psy.D., is a psychotherapist and couples therapist with more than two decades of experience.

Nancy Dreyfus, Psy.D., is a psychotherapist and couples therapist with more than two decades of experience. She holds a doctorate degree from Hahnemann University Medical School.

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Book Published 2013-01-01 by Tarcher
Book Published 2013-01-01 by Tarcher

Comments

The most crucial relationship advice book since Men Are from Mars.

In a world where personal growth books are a dime a dozen, Talk to Me Like I’m Someone You Lovegleams like gold. Any person in a relationship and every couples therapist on the planet needs Nancy Dreyfus’s Relationship Repair In A Flash. We all have moments when words fail us and emotions take us into hurtful territory. The concept of the flashcards is as brilliant and compassionate as Nancy herself. If you want to be loved, understood, and accepted, and want to love, understand and accept others, you’ll want to keep this book with you at all times.

Veteran psychotherapist Nancy Dreyfus has written an insightful guide that highlights the power of written messages to diffuse tension and put an end to conflict.

Just about any couple using this material could humanize their relationship.

As a somatic educator on the impact of trauma on our nervous systems, I see Nancy’s flashcards as a priceless tool to help couples de-activate from states of hyperarousal, and restore healthy states of social engagement. The cards are an elegant application of cutting edge neuroscience in very human, poignant, user-friendly terms!

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Nancy Dreyfus and her flash cards were an inspiration behind our research into the important process of attempting to change the affect during marital-conflict resolution.