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TEXT ME WHEN YOU GET HOME

Kayleen Schaefer

The Evolution and Triumph of Modern Female Friendship

A personal and sociological examination--and ultimately a celebration--of the evolution of female friendship in pop culture and modern society.
"Text me when you get home." After joyful nights out together, female friends say this to one another as a way of cementing their love. It's about safety; but more than that, it's about solidarity.

From Broad City to Big Little Lies to what women say about their own best friends, the stories we're telling about female friendship have changed. What used to be written off as infighting between mean girls or disposable relationships that would be tossed as soon as a guy came along is no longer that. Now, we're lifting up our female friendships to the same level as other important relationships, saying they matter just as much as the bonds we have with our romantic partners, children, parents, or siblings.

Journalist Kayleen Schaefer tells her own story of realizing what other women could mean to her as she moved through a journey of modern female friendship: from being a competitive teenager to trying to be one of the guys in the workplace to ultimately awakening to the power of female friendship and the soul mates, girl squads, and chosen families that come with it. Schaefer has put together a completely new sociological perspective on the way we see our friends today, one that's drawn not only from her own story but from interviews with dozens of women across the country: historians, creators of the most iconic films and television shows about female friendship (and Galentine's Day!), celebrities, authors, and other experts. A validation of female friendship unlike any that's existed before, TEXT ME WHEN YOU GET HOME is a mix of historical research, the author's own experience, and conversations about friendships with women across the country. Everything Schaefer uncovers reveals that these ties are making us, both as individuals and as a society, stronger than ever before.

Kayleen Schaefer is a journalist and author of the bestselling Kindle Single memoir Fade Out. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, Vanity Fair, The New Yorker, Bloomberg Business, and many other publications. She currently lives in New York City, and TEXT ME WHEN YOU GET HOME is her first book.
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Published 2018-02-06 by Dutton

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Published 2018-02-06 by Dutton

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Part social history, part personal narrative, Text Me When You Get Home is a Valentine to female friendship.

A memoir of female friendship issues a call to action for BFFs everywhere.

Text Me When You Get Home is journalist Kayleen Schaefer's love letter to her friends. Schaefer rejects the idea that women's friendships are rife with dysfunction and that women themselves are somehow dysfunctional, a concept that she shows remains strong in popular culture... Schaefer shows that, contrary to pop culture's emphasis on catfights and frenemies, women's friendships are stabilizing and joyful

Text Me When You Get Home offers a new sociological perspective - as well as a celebration - of female friendships today.

Text Me When You Get Home will be featured in the 3/12 issue of People Magazineon stands tomorrow (3/1) or Friday!

Reading Text Me When You Get Home feels like experiencing its subject - the intimate, slow-burning, miraculously comfortable thrill of making and keeping a lifelong friend. Kayleen Schaefer's affectionate and clear-sighted exploration of female friendship is as romantic as a movie and as honest as the conversation on the third day of a road trip; reading it is as delightful as walking into a bar on a weeknight to see your friend already seated and ordering your drink.

I was deeply moved by this book. I cried and I laughed. I recognized myself in it. I felt raised up and also challenged. It felt like a delicious, long overdue conversation with a best friend I didn't know I had. I will be giving this book to all my girlfriends.

Warning: this absolutely delightful and insightful book on the immense power of female friendship will make you book a trip to visit your college best friend immediately. You might even buy Beyoncé tickets. It's that good.

TEXT ME WHEN YOU GET HOME is selected as the Girls Night In newsletter March Book Club Pick. Read more...

TEXT ME WHEN YOU GET HOME is listed on many roundups as one of the most anticipated nonviction books of 2018: Bustle: The 25 Most Anticipated Nonfiction Books of 2018 BookRiot: 24 Amazing New Feminist Books Entertainment Weekly: 16 books to read after the Women's March anniversary Entertainment Weekly: 20 New Books to Read in February Wall Street Journal: #MeToo books roundup

A hopeful celebration of women's friendships.

Text Me has the thrills and laughs of a romantic comedy, but with an inverted message: 'There just isn't only one love story in our lives,' Schaefer writes. If you're lucky, friends will be the protagonists in these multiple love stories. It's high time that we start seeing it that way.

Emma Roberts' book club, Belletrist, is recommending Text Me When You Get Home, featuring a fierce quote from Keira Knightly about female friendship!: Text Me When You Get Home by @iknowkayleen ?? can best be explained by the intro... Why women tell each other "Text Me When You Get Home" answer "Well, female friendships are fucking extraordinary" -Keira Knightley. Read more...

TEXT ME WHEN YOU GET HOME is among The 25 Most Anticipated Nonfiction Books of 2018. Read more...

TEXT ME WHEN YOU GET HOME IS among the 24 Amazing New Feminist Books Coming in 2018. Read more...

It's a common call as women bid goodbye to each other: "Text me when you get home." And that's the title of Kayleen Schaefer's book about modern female friendship. She talks with Lulu Garcia-Navarro.... Read more...

...Every page of this book has something valuable to impart about the necessity of fostering female bonds and tending them with the same care we give to our relationships with family, spouses, and children. ...Schaefer covers the ground of loss, change, and moving on that can happen even between the best of friends, but "I've been learning from...women in my life for years, and I don't want to stop." As the culture continues to broaden to validate women and their experiences, Schaefer asserts, women will keep figuring out ways to keep each other close. Read more...

Schaefer traces the evolution of female friendship in this thoughtfully reported book. Its insightful cultural criticism makes for an especially valuable read in the #MeToo era.