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THE TRUTH ABOUT PROMISES

Robin Stern

When to Make Them, Why We Break Them, and How to Trust Again

A deep dive into the types of promises we can make, promissory styles, and how to heal from ones that have been broken.
Promises are one of the most common and least understood currencies in relationships. Ever-present, yet critically misunderstood, we assume that we know their value, which is all-to-often not the case at all. Promises are extremely powerful and using them incorrectly often leads to misunderstanding and miscommunication, which, in turn, damages interpersonal relationships and prevents us from harnessing their positive potential: to elevate and intensify our most important relationships.

The book looks at the small, everyday promises, the larger, more consequential ones, and life's major promises, such as wedding vows, deathbed vows, childhood promises and family legacies. Readers will specifically follow a handful of Robin's clients (with details disguised) as they develop better promising skills and clarity and improve their relationships with others and with themselves. The book will also share concrete actions that readers can take to shore up their "promise quotient".

Robin Stern, Ph.D., is a cofounder and senior advisor to the director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a licensed psychoanalyst with 30 years of experience treating individuals, couples and families. She is a sought-after expert on gaslighting, emotional intelligence, divorce, cults and more. She's the author of The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life (Harmony, 2007) which drew on her experience as a clinician and researcher and coined the term that has become part of the common parlance for describing a type of emotionally abusive, controlling partner. The repackaged paperback released in the wake of the 2016 election, when the topic felt newly urgent, found a new audience and a new interest from mainstream media. The Gaslight Effect has sold abroad in more than 15 countries.
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Published by Dial / Random House